If you’re confused, second-guessing yourself, or stuck
asking “Is it really that bad?” — you’re not alone.
(And you don’t have to decide anything today.)
Free • Private • Self-paced • No obligation
Many people don’t wonder whether they’re being abused because nothing is wrong...
They wonder because something doesn’t sit right — but they’ve been conditioned to minimize it.
...explain it away.
...spiritualize it.
...endure it.
When harm is subtle and intermittent, or rooted in religious teachings,
clarity can feel impossible.
If you’re exhausted from questioning your own reality,
you may be reacting normally to very abnormal situations..
Confusion is often a signal that something isn't okay.
Is This Abuse? is a free, trauma-informed crash course designed to help you:
understand the difference between normal relationship conflict and abuse
recognize patterns that are often minimized or mislabeled
put language to experiences that are hard to explain
stop spiraling in self-doubt and “maybe it’s just me” thinking
IS THIS ABUSE? is educational, not diagnostic. It isn't going to:
tell you what to do.
pressure you to leave, confront, label, or disclose.
It simply helps you see more clearly — so you can decide your next step, if and when you’re ready.
IS THIS ABUSE? is for you if…
You keep minimizing things, then feeling unsettled anyway
You’ve been told “all relationships are hard” — but this feels different
You’re stuck between “it wasn’t that bad” and “something is very wrong”
You feel guilty even asking these questions because sometimes everything seems great... until it's not
You want information without pressure
Now... if you’re looking for someone to tell you what label to use or exactly which decision to make, this is not the answer.
But if you’re looking for clarity, language, and grounding, you’re in the right place!
IS THIS ABUSE? Gives You Clarity + Language + Next Steps
20 short, trauma-informed videos (under 5 min each)
Self-assessment quizzes to validate your experience
100% FREE + Instant Access
MODULES INCLUDE:
The exact 4 tools every abuser will use (with examples)
Why abusers manipulate systems (and how to spot it)
Ways trauma impacts your brain and body
Patterns of post-separation abuse
And more…
Includes audio-friendly access and transcripts.
“This course helped me stop minimizing everything. I finally realized I wasn’t crazy—I was being conditioned.”
“I shared this with my therapist and my lawyer. It made it so much easier to explain what I’d been through instead of grasping for definitions.”
Wilderness to WILD exists because too many people find themselves navigating the wilderness of harmful relationships without accurate information — and then blaming themselves for the confusion and heartache that follows.
Our work is:
survivor-informed
research-based
trauma-aware
We believe clarity should come BEFORE big decisions.
And that education should never come with pressure attached.
Get strategic clarity—so you can take your next steps with confidence.
(Even if you’re not ready for court yet…
Even if no one else believes you…)
Even if your story doesn’t “look like” what you’ve seen before…
IS THIS ABUSE? will help you reclaim your voice.
You are in control of how you move through this information.
You can go slowly
You can stop anytime
You can revisit lessons as often as you need
Learning does not obligate you to act.
Clarity does not require urgency.
Many people take Is This Abuse? and feel immediate relief —
simply from having language to define what they’ve experienced.
Others realize they want deeper support tools, or personal guidance.
If this is you, there's a private space waiting — where all of WILD’s workshops and healing tools live, organized and contained in one supportive portal.
There’s no rush.
No expectation.
No “next step” you’re required to take.
Start where you are.
Where did WILD's workshops go?
All of our workshops and trauma tools now live inside The SCOOP — a private online portal designed to make healing support easier to access. If you already have access to any WILD resources, nothing has changed for your account.